an article by a woman talking about purging her facebook friends list.
there was always a better way to handle "facebook overload" than the current state of "mass defriendings", but it was up front. i only have 83 facebook friends, and no, i don't "know" them all, but i like them all just fine. facebook hasn't become that kind of overwhelming and stressful and "public-y" to me.
you have to understand, this format was originally designed for a college campus. it's predicated on the notion that everyone on it has a real-world reason to know everyone else. it wasn't designed for people who are and intend to remain absolute strangers to one another.
as for the "social" implications of unfriending someone... if someone came into your house and started yelling about social topics that made you uncomfortable, or started insulting or threatening you, you'd kick them out. it would be worlds harder than just clicking 'unfriend', but you'd do it. well, that's pretty much what facebook is. it's allowing people into your home, and they bring their opinions and personalities with them. if they're upsetting you, you should kick them out.
but before you do that, briefly consider the idea that if someone else having an opinion that isn't a carbon copy of yours makes you so upset you can't have them in your environment... maybe that's not all exactly their problem only. i have facebook friends i know i disagree with on some pretty fundamental points. doesn't bother me. certainly not to the point where i would willingly deprive myself of their input. i already know what i think. when all i want is to obsess about my own opinion, i open my word processor, not facebook.
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